A First Visit to a Swingers Club

Most couples talk about visiting a swingers club for a long time before they actually go. The reality is usually calmer and friendlier than people imagine, and a little planning makes the first night easy to enjoy.

Choose a club that suits you

Clubs vary a lot. Some are relaxed bars with a social area, others hold themed nights or couples only evenings. Read the club's website, check which nights welcome newcomers and see what other members say. Our UK swingers clubs list is a good place to start.

Agree your rules before you go

Talk with your partner beforehand about what you are comfortable with. Many couples decide on a first visit just to have a drink, look around and chat. Agree a simple signal for leaving, and remember either of you can change your mind at any time.

Learn the etiquette

The golden rule in every club is that no means no, and only a clear yes means yes. Ask before you join anyone, take a polite answer gracefully and never touch without an invitation. Phones are usually kept away for everyone's privacy.

Go for the social side

A lot of the evening is simply talking. Introduce yourselves, be friendly and let things happen at their own pace. Many couples find their first visit is mostly about meeting people.

Look after each other

Check in with your partner during the night and afterwards. Talk about what you enjoyed and what you would do differently next time.

You can also meet other couples before a club night. The swingers section on Kinkmarket lets age checked members chat and plan a visit together, which makes walking in for the first time much easier.